When was the last time you found yourself stuck in a loop of negative thoughts? Those relentless whispers in your mind that say, "I’m not good enough," or "I’ll never succeed"? You’re not alone. I don’t know one person who hasn’t experienced this, including myself.

In the weeks before speaking on stage at Zen Within Wellness Festival back in October 2024, I had so much fear arise. I honestly wondered whether I’d be able to stand on stage and deliver in an impactful way. I wondered whether anyone would receive my message… or if would I just feel like a failure.

I knew that I had some things to work through before standing on that stage, or it was likely that this feeling of failure would be my reality. I knew I had tools to use to transmute my fear into power, so I went into my handy bag of tricks and pulled out this one - Let that part of me SPEAK.

I allowed all of the thoughts I was thinking to be expressed out loud, such as, “You’re not as impactful as you think”, and “You should just quit now”. I expressed them with the frustration and rage I was feeling inside, and I let out a few screams at the same time. Behind that rage though, were feelings of sadness. Feelings of disbelief and distrust in myself, and so I cried.

When I finally felt like I had nothing left, I sat up straight and breathed into my body. I could feel the space I’d created for something new. And I called it in…

I called in the Wild Woman archetype - the energy of being unfuckwithable, the energy of having my eyes on the prize, with FULL belief in myself and trust in the Universe. I felt unstoppable, fierce, and brave.

I took this energy with me to the event and delivered my empowerment talk from a quietly powerful and grounded place. By the end, I felt ALIVE.

Matt & I speaking at Zen Within Holistic & Wellness Festival in October 2024

Emotional empowerment work isn’t for the faint-hearted. It’s for those with a fire in their heart. For those who know they are meant for more, and just don’t quite know how to get there. Well, this is your first clue.

Do not let fear stop you from being in your truest essence - that would be selfish.

Beautiful, your thoughts aren’t you, but they are parts of you. Parts that won’t go away by simply resisting them. They are energy, and they need to move through and out of you.

Far too often, we internalise these feelings and create stories around them. We let them define us, and in doing so, they wreak havoc in our mind and body. This internalisation might manifest as:

Quitting before you’ve given yourself a chance to succeed.
Allowing self-doubt to overshadow your potential.
Experiencing conflict in relationships because of emotionally clouded perceptions (and reacting from high emotional states).

Why does this happen?

Vulnerability feels like weakness or it feels unsafe to you. It’s scary to admit we’re struggling or to show the rawness of our emotions. And, we fear that we may be rejected in our vulnerability - ask yourself, am I rejecting a part of myself?

So, instead of opening up (to anyone or even to ourselves), we keep it all in, letting the unexpressed energy manifest as tension in the body and chaos in the mind.

But here’s the good news: you too can transmute your fear into power. It requires courage, and it’s deeply transformative.

Let’s explore the three steps…

Step 1: Express Without Judgment

This may feel counterintuitive, but the first step is to give voice to those negative thoughts. Whether it’s speaking them aloud to yourself, sharing them with someone you trust, or writing them down in a journal, the goal is to provide that part of you with a healthy outlet.

Express it all:

"I feel like I’m failing."
"It’s all too hard."
"I’m so f*cking useless."

By allowing these thoughts to surface, you create space for the emotion behind them to arise as well. It’s not about believing these thoughts or letting them define you—it’s about observing, and acknowledging them without judgment. This is a powerful act of self-awareness.

Step 2: Let the Energy Flow

Here’s the most crucial part: once you’ve brought these thoughts and feelings to the surface, you must let them flow out. This might mean crying, screaming, shaking, or moving your body in whatever way feels natural. Allow the energy of these emotions to move through you with grace and gratitude.

Instead of resisting or suppressing, lean into the experience. This is where true transformation happens. As you release, remind yourself:

This part of me isn’t my enemy. It needs my love.

By meeting these emotions with compassion instead of pushback, you cultivate a deeper sense of self-acceptance and self-love.

Step 3: Breathe Into the Space You’ve Created

Once the emotion has moved through, you’ll notice something incredible: spaciousness. This is the peace that comes when the storm passes. Breathe deeply into this space, filling it with love, compassion, and gratitude for yourself.

This spaciousness isn’t just emptiness; it’s an invitation to reconnect with your truth. When you allow yourself to feel fully and release freely, your perspective begins to shift. You trust yourself more. You see the world through a lens of empowerment instead of fear.

Coming Home to Your Truth

These three steps—expressing, allowing, and inviting in the new—are acts of radical self-love. They remind you that every part of you, even the parts that feel messy and unworthy, is just an unmet part of you screaming for love and compassion (usually a child part of you that is stuck in the past).

By transmuting fear into power, you’re not just clearing out old energy; you’re making space for inner peace, love, personal power, and connection.

So the next time those negative thoughts creep in, remember: they’re just energy waiting to be released. Allow them to flow. Lean into vulnerability. Meet yourself with love, and watch as your inner world transforms.

This practice won’t just change your day; it will change your life.

If you want to explore this work more deeply and invite in your true power, confidence and new levels of self-love, I invite you to explore my NEW online program,

‘The 5 Pillars to Emotional Empowerment’ (Starts Jan 2025)

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3 Steps to Transmute Fear into Power