The Connection Code ✨
This blog was written in March 2024, shortly after my baby girl was born. I left it unfinished for almost a year, but now it’s ready to be read.
It's day 10 of the postpartum period, and I'm lying on the bed next to my daughter. She’s unsettled and has been feeding a lot. She’s uncomfortable in some way, but the trouble with babies is they can’t tell you where or why they’re uncomfortable. PS. As a parent, I am totally winging it most days.
She’s squirming and fighting sleep next to me on our bed. I lay next to her for a while, being cautious not to get too close incase I fall asleep too. But she wants me, she wants connection.
I moved to her, put my hand on her tiny head, kissed her on the top of the head, and pulled her body towards my chest to ensure she’s close. I breathe deeply, and she completely softens into me and instantly falls asleep.
As I did that, these words dropped into my mind, “We live in a world of disconnection”.
We live in a world of disconnection.
We are told not to co-sleep with our babies in case we harm them in some way while sleeping.
We are told to keep them separate, in separate beds (imagine saying this to animals in nature).
We are taught to listen to doctors, professionals, and ‘the system’, over listening to the wisdom of our own body and intuition.
We are conditioned in school to work for the man, instead of following our joy and purpose in life, disconnecting us from ourselves to fit into the system.
We work in offices, mine sites, or wherever, spending our days indoors in artificial lights and air conditioning, or on land that we’ve destroyed, instead of spending time purposefully connecting to nature (as an extension of ourselves).
We are told to avoid the sun, and wear toxic sunscreen, instead of intentionally and mindfully soaking up the sun’s nourishment and allowing it to heal us.
We are sold fairytales of finding the one, settling down, and that this will be our ticket to happiness, instead of being taught the truth – you will never find happiness outside of yourself, nor connection in a partner without connection to your Self.
We are sold the latest smart screen (phone, television, etc) and we spend hours watching the latest series, fucking up our circadian rhythm and therefore our sleep and hormones, creating further health issues, and disconnecting us from our loved ones.
We are told to take drugs for this, drugs for that, an operation to fix this or that, instead of understanding the body’s innate intelligence and the fact it is always trying to heal us and WOULD given the right foods, water, movement, emotional healing, and love.
We watch the news which instills fear – the mind is there to keep us safe and so fear is an easy manipulator – thereby fear then becomes louder than the voice of our inner self, our connection to the truth, to Self.
We wear footwear that disconnects us from the earth.
We take medication that disconnects us from our body.
We eat foods that are so processed, and so far disconnected from nature.
We look for love everywhere but its source… within.
Whatever happened to villages for new mums? It takes a village to raise a child, right?
Women are working like men, fiercely independent, and disconnected from their feminine energy.
And women reading this… how common is it to find an awakened man connected to and leading from his divine masculine?
Because everything we are taught is disconnecting us from anything that has us standing in our power and truth.
I could go on and on.
They say the opposite of addiction is connection.
We are wired for connection, it’s a basic human need, and yet conditioned to live disconnected. It makes total sense as to why we struggle so much with mental health issues individually, and war collectively.
The world is suffering.
If the world is suffering from a chronic and collective case of disconnection, then the answer to me seems obvious… connection. Connection to our body, connection to Self, connection to nature, connection to one another.
Easier said than done. The system isn’t made for us to connect and therefore it takes healing at an individual level before we can heal collectively. I see it happening – it is happening – just slowly.
What can you do? Reconnect to your Self. Once you do, this will make complete sense.
Once you connect with yourself, this creates a ripple. You begin to connect with nature more, as an extension of yourself. You begin to connect with others more, and understand others more, and therefore have more compassion for others. You begin to hear the whispers of your intuition and it becomes louder the more you listen to your Self over the fear and separateness instilled by the system. And when you do, you find everything you’ve been looking for ‘out there’ within you.
I lay close to Luna. She settles. She wants connection, as we all do.
Your inner child who was disconnected through all of the above is still craving connection. Can you reconnect to him/her?
Through love, play, coming back to what’s true for YOU.
How do you reconnect??
Through daily practices such as meditation, movement, dance, journalling, and cultivating self-trust. Through practices that bring you joy, playfulness, and love. Through letting go of all that keeps you disconnected and returning to YOU, beyond all of your conditioning, patterns, and habits. AND through finding a community that brings out the best in you, who inspires you to return to the truth of who you are.
The circle from our most recent event in Bunbury, Release & Reset
THIS is what we are bringing to you with ‘The Connection Code’.
‘The Connection Code’ has been coming in and out of my field for the past 10 months, ever since I wrote this blog post, and I was never clear on what it was calling me to create, until now.
It dropped into my mind loudly and abruptly as Matt and I were deciding what events to bring to the South West this year, and as he sat with it for a moment, it resonated deeply. It was OUR co-creation all along, as is our daughter, who was the inspiration for this idea, this muse, to begin with.
Introducing…
We are so excited to bring this event to our community and if all goes well, we will continue to expand and deepen The Connection Code in a multitude of ways going forward!
Join us on 23rd March at the new Zen Within Wellness Centre in Bunbury for this heart-opening, connecting event.
What you’ll walk away with:
✨A deeper, more loving connection to yourself—because you deserve that!
✨ A-ha moments about how we disconnect (thanks, society), and how to shift that.
✨ Deeper connections with those around you.
✨ A reminder that you’re NOT alone—you’re part of something bigger.
✨ An open, playful heart.
