5 Simple Practices to Reconnect with Your Higher Self After Motherhood

Standing in the living room with Luna in my arms, tears filling my eyes as I said to Matt, “I miss myself”.

This past year has been a profound journey of transformation for me, a dance between the highs and lows of pregnancy and birth, and the responsibilities of becoming a mother of three and the deep yearning to reconnect with my true self. Navigating through sleepless nights, endless nappy changes, and the constant demands of little ones, I knew I had the practices that could bring me back to me, but I didn’t find myself prioritising them, saying to myself, “I’m tired” and “I don’t have the time or energy”.

Motherhood had consumed me, and in the process, I felt like I had lost touch with the woman I once was. As I was saying the words, “I miss myself”, I knew I didn’t want to buy into the victimhood of my mind. I knew that I could choose differently this time around. I had lost myself with each baby, but I knew I wanted this time to be different. It came down to a choice. And honestly, I had more support this time around than I ever had before (not only with Matt but within myself). I found myself feeling both grateful and lost but this time, I knew how to find her.

That day, I made a choice: to reclaim my connection with my higher self. It wasn’t a grand gesture but a series of small, intentional steps that led me back to me. I started journalling again, and prioritising movement again, and I started allowing myself to be expansive instead of contracted.

In our journey as mothers, we often put our needs last, leading to a disconnect from our true selves, our higher self. But what if we could find ways to honor our inner being amidst the chaos of daily life? The answer lies in small, consistent practices that nurture our soul.

How often do you pause to listen to your inner voice?

Are you open to carving out moments of peace in your daily routine to reconnect with yourself?

What practices can you incorporate to intentionally connect to your higher self?

Here are some simple practices to inspire you -

1. Morning Mindfulness:

Begin your day with a few minutes of mindfulness. Before the household wakes up, sit in silence, breathe deeply, and set an intention for the day. It can be the simplest thing, but it’s in the little things that you commit to over time that help you re-form self-trust. This practice helps ground you and sets a positive tone for the day.

2. Journaling:

My go to! Find time to write down your thoughts and feelings. Journaling is a powerful way to release emotions, gain clarity, and reconnect with your inner wisdom. Ask yourself open-ended questions (like you’re coaching yourself) and allow the answers to flow freely onto the page without judgement. They’re all messengers.

3. Nature Walks:

Take regular walks in nature. Whether it’s a forest, a beach walk, or a simple stroll around your neighborhood, immersing yourself in nature is incredibly grounding. Pay attention to the sights, sounds, and smells around you, and let them bring you back to the present moment. Soak it all in.

4. Gratitude Practice:

Each evening, reflect on a few things you are grateful for. This practice shifts your focus from what’s lacking to what’s abundant in your life. Gratitude opens your heart and aligns you with the frequency of abundance and love. And… like attracts like.

5. Affirmations:

Use affirmations to reprogram your mind and reinforce positive beliefs. Here are a few to get you started:

- "I am connected to my higher self and trust my inner wisdom."

- "I honor my needs and nurture my soul daily."

- "I am a loving, present, and empowered mother."

Notice what happens in your body when you recite affirmations. Do you feel connected and lit up by those words or do you feel constricted? If you feel constricted, change it up! For affirmations to be powerful, you need to believe them on both the conscious and subconscious level. So, instead of saying “I honor my needs”, you could say, “I am learning to honor my needs”. To your subconscious, that may feel more true.

And lastly, notice when you feel triggered. Whether it’s by your kids or your partner or anyone. Those triggers are showing you where other parts of you are showing up, and not your true self. This is probably the most uncomfortable but most powerful practice for reconnecting to your Self, and even by simply acknowledging when you’re not showing up as your higher self, you’re speaking as the observer of your mind. In other words, with that awareness, you are speaking from your higher self.

Remember, the journey to reconnect with your Self is a series of small, intentional steps. It’s about finding moments of peace amidst the chaos, honoring the beautiful soul that you are.

As you integrate these practices into your life, you will find yourself feeling more grounded, empowered, and aligned with your true essence.

You are NOT alone on this journey, as much as you feel you are. Together, we can navigate the beautiful complexities of motherhood while staying true to ourselves.

Stay vibrant, stay empowered, and always lead with love.

Tara x

P.S. To all the mumma’s who are feeling disconnected and missing themselves. I feel you and I’m with you!

I will soon be opening spaces for 1:1 coaching for mothers to support them in that reconnection.

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